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Hello, I am Toni Hu, the parent of Upper Secondary 4B, and I am so happy to share with you a great book called “Yidanism”. The book is called “Yidanism”. “Yidan” usually gives people a negative feeling, but if you can use “Yidan” techniques in a timely manner, it can not only make your parents feel better, but also enhance the parent-child relationship!
This book was written by a psychiatrist, Dr. Ronald Hui, and “Yidanism” is mainly taken from the third generation of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT): Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), so “Yidanism” is not written by “Yidan”.
There are too many “unsolvable problems” in our lives. Our own problems are fine, but as parents, we can’t tell you how we feel when we see our children’s problems. Therefore, “Yidanism” provides us with one of the ways out. “Yedanism” is not ‘lying down’, and ‘Yedanism’ does not hinder our pursuit of ideal things. Instead, it teaches us that we should ‘personalize’ our own definition of success, and learn to accept things as they are. In the book (p. 157), it is said, “Set your own goals…work hard, and then achieve a goal that only you know and that is to your liking, and then you are successful. The most important thing is not to be led by others.”
There are three core elements in “Danism”: acceptance, letting go and living in the moment. Let’s take an example. There is a child who was born in December and is a “small child”. Because of the limitations of the small hand muscles, the child’s handwriting in kindergarten is not as good as it should be. If we see this as a problem, we can certainly improve the child by practicing, but at the same time, what price do we have to pay in exchange for neat handwriting? If we realize that this problem cannot be solved overnight, can we change the definition of “success”, for example, if we get the strokes right, then we are successful? Do we have the courage to “accept” the situation and “let go” of the problem for a while, and then return the focus of our lives to the precious time we have with our children here and now?
We only have a limited amount of time each day, especially with our children. If we can focus more on the joyful moments we have with them, rather than the problems that bother us, then the meaning of our lives will be more abundant!
Shanggao 4B
Parent of Mr. L.C. Wu
March 27, 2024
Goodreads Pick: Mom, Will You Love Me Forever?
Author: Kathleen B. LeBlanc Catherine LeBlanc
Little Bear accidentally broke his coat while playing. He knew his mom was very, very tired from a long day at work, and he was worried, “Oh no, mom will be very angry.” With trepidation, he walked over to his tired mother and apologized softly. Then he asked fearfully, “Mom, will you still love me if I torn my coat?
I remember when the new coronavirus was raging, I took care of a mother-in-law in the intensive care unit who was hospitalized for acute pneumonia. Because of the seriousness of the epidemic at that time, visiting services in public hospitals were suspended. A few days later, the grandmother’s clinical vital index was so unstable that she needed to have a tracheotracheal tube inserted and be put on a ventilator to help her breathe, and no one could accurately predict whether or not the grandmother’s condition would improve even after the insertion of the tube. Therefore, before she was given the anesthesia injection to prepare for the insertion of the tube, she gently asked for a phone call to call her son, who she hadn’t seen for a long time. When the phone was answered, the mother-in-law said to the phone in a breathless voice, “Do you remember? Mommy loves you very much. On the other end of the line was her son, who was already sobbing.
A few days later, my mother-in-law passed away.
I share this story because I want to tell you that while we can still express our love to our favorite person, while we still have the opportunity and time, we should buy the time to confess our love to our favorite person. Chinese people’s love for their children is very delicate and inward-looking. We seldom talk about love, and we tend to express it through our actions and daily care. However, for children, expressing love and affection is direct and real. They will hug, kiss or use simple and direct words to express their love.
As we grow up, we often lose the courage to express love as directly and simply as we did when we were children.
Therefore, I recommend this book to everyone and their children for parent-child reading, and children together into the storyline of the bear and mom, and take this opportunity to make a simple and direct confession to their children.
When Mama Bear knew that Bear had torn his coat, she didn’t get angry, she just hugged him and said, “Even if you have torn your coat; even if you haven’t done your homework and your grades may not be good; even if you have been naughty; even if you have become big and ugly; even if you don’t love your mommy any more; even if you will have your own family; even if mommy won’t be there…”.
“Son, mommy will always love you.”
Lower Class 1
Mr. Mok Han Lam’s Parents
April 26, 2024
Goodreads Share: The Twins of East East Village
Author: Zhang Pengjie
Publisher: Wenlin Publishing Co.
Hello, I am Ruby, the parent of Su Muyin from Lower Kindergarten 1. This morning, I was organizing my daughter Mimi’s bookcase, and she caught a glimpse of the cover, and she exclaimed, “I want that book about the twins, I’ve been looking for it for a long time. I’ve been looking for it for a long time. Which one is it? Why are you so excited? It turned out to be the picture book “The Twins of Dong Dong Village”.
When I read it again, I really thought it was a great book. The author, Zhang Pengjie, whom I knew from my college fellowship, is a very good singer and songwriter, and it turns out that she also creates picture books, so when I joined the Qingpi Reading Program and saw that there was more than one book with this author’s works, I felt very close to her and looked forward to it. Just like the author’s impression and lovely painting style, each of her picture books is bold and colorful, with some biblical concepts in them, but without any sense of preaching.
Let’s have an intimate parent-child reading with Mimi and me! In the picture book, there are twin brothers, one is happy and the other is sad. The book is written in a contrasting way, so you can see the differences between them as soon as you open the book. When faced with an event, the two people respond very differently, the positive is always positive, the negative is always the same, for example, when there is a blackout, when the juice is poured, when they encounter mosquitoes when they go out for a picnic, or when they fall ill, you can see the different responses of the two people who are similar in looks. I was most impressed by the two pages on colds and illnesses, which clearly reflected the saying “a joyful heart is a good medicine”. Perhaps I have been feeling the effects of emotions on the body very deeply recently, so I read them with even more feeling.
As I guided Mimi through the reading process, I finally took her back to the beginning and asked her to choose again and again whether she wanted to be the optimistic brother or the pessimistic brother in this situation. Sometimes she chooses her brother, sometimes she chooses her brother, a very real choice of her situation. I also brought in the idea that sometimes I would be like my brother, sometimes I wish I was like my brother, and finally I brought out the hope that our home could be a home like my brother’s, optimistic and open-minded, and that people would want to come into our home.
May you share this lovely and reflective picture book, and may your home be filled with joy.
Lower Kindergarten 1
Su Muyang Parent
May 31, 2024
Learning to be a good father
Hello, I am Jerry, the parent of N1A class Zhiyue Zheng. The time since I became a parent has gone by very fast. When I married my wife, I had already imagined that we would have a little baby at home, and now Zhiyue is already 3 years old. I think I have learned more in these 3 years than I have in books, because what I have learned is how to brighten up the life of a little child.
“Dad only cares about work!” In fact, I am most afraid that this is the only image that children have in their minds. Many parents have shared that if their children do not have a good companion from infancy to elementary school, the distance between them will become farther and farther. I believe in this point of view, so I emphasize on the following points to get along with my children:
I talk to my daughter every morning before I go to work. Ask her if she saw her mom and dad in her dream, maybe she will share something amazing. Ask her what she saw at school today and maybe she will share her expectations. Ask her what she wants to do after school. If she says she wants to see her dad, I will finish my work and go home as soon as possible that day! -The point is that I value her answers. Avoid asking a question and answering a question, it’s just a ritual, but I don’t take it to heart.
It is not easy to be a parent, and it takes quality to accompany children. What is quality? It is whether or not you are committed to the world of children. We adults have been children before. We have longed for adults to play with us and listen to our feelings, and sometimes we just cuddle and sleep together, and their “soul mates” are their parents. So when I am with my daughter, I become a child and enter her world. We even have our own “Bi-Li-Ba-La” language!
C) Record the time we spend together as a family. Nowadays, we are in the digital age, we can take unlimited photos and videos with just a mobile phone. For me, these easy-to-take photos are precious memories of my children, my wife and me. It is also easy to know what my daughter likes by looking at old photos and videos with her from time to time. Sometimes, when I don’t have any photos of my family for a period of time, I will review whether we have spent less time together. These photos also remind me of how hard I work for our family!
Being a parent makes me realize how great my parents are. Even though being a mom or dad is hard work, the hard work is also a sweet memory, and children are the best gift a parent can give.
Upper N1A
Parent of JEONG CHI YUE
April 19, 2024
Hello, I am Toni Hu, the parent of Upper Secondary 4B, and I am very happy to see you all again, I wonder what you think of the book “Yidanism” that I introduced last time. I think “acceptance”, which is often mentioned in the book, is the most important attitude in parenting.
Psychosocial development theory, also known as the “Eight Stages of Life”, states that a person’s life is divided into eight stages according to age, and each stage has a “major task” that needs to be accomplished, and if one succeeds in this task, one will be able to grow and develop. Stage 2 – Early Childhood (2-3 years old) and Stage 3 – Preschool (4-6 years old) are the ages of our children. The theme of early childhood is autonomy vs. shame and doubt. With parental acceptance, children can enhance their autonomy and begin to explore the outside world, learning to become independent from parental decisions, and adapting their behavior to the order and norms of society. On the other hand, if parents respond negatively, such as discouragement or even ridicule, the child will develop a sense of shame and doubt in himself/herself, and his/her willpower will be reduced.
In preschool, the theme is “initiative vs. guilt”. Parental acceptance can help children develop a sense of self-responsibility and the courage to try and understand the importance of achieving their goals. On the other hand, a negative response from parents, such as scolding or too many restrictions, can lead to feelings of guilt and even worthlessness.
How can we accept this? Parents can be more understanding of what their children think and need, rather than using adult standards, perspectives or abilities. Allow children to accomplish their own things in their own way. Don’t be impatient or over-protective in helping children accomplish what they were meant to accomplish, and give them plenty of freedom while meeting basic safety requirements. Everyone has his or her own path to follow and his or her own responsibilities, even children. By accepting that your child is different from you, the path of “walking with your child” will be clearer in the future.
Sheung Ko 4B
Parent of Lap-Chee Wu
May 10, 2024
Hello, I am Esther, the parent of Leung Cheuk Yiu in Lower 2B, and I would like to share my parenting experience with you today. As a parent of two children, the age difference between my children is about 2 years. Since both of them are girls, they like similar things, so there are always times when they love each other and times when they hate each other. Therefore, I try to learn from my parents and friends, and also from books!
1. Don’t compare
When relatives and friends see two children, they will inevitably compare them: comparing their grades, height, appearance, etc. This may be unintentional, but the children will inevitably be unhappy. Therefore, I think it is most important to teach children to appreciate their own strengths, so that they can realize that everyone’s pace is different, and that they may learn at different speeds, so it is enough to compare their own progress!
2. Avoid being biased
The two daughters are always in a situation where one minute they are sugar-coated peas, and the next minute they are in a situation where they have no choice but to give in to each other. They don’t give in to each other, and then they complain to me. This is a big headache for a mom. According to Wang Yizhong, a clinical psychologist, fighting between siblings is not a bad thing. It should be seen as a natural part of growing up, and a chance for children to resolve their disputes by first observing what is going on between them and how they are resolving it. If after a period of time it is still unresolved or not handled correctly, it is advisable to separate the two and guide the child to find a suitable solution, but do not force the older child to compromise with the younger one, as this will cause her to have negative emotions and be jealous. 3.
3. Seek equality, not fairness
As a parent, you may be asked from time to time, “Why is it okay for my sister? “Or sometimes, in a reversal of the question, the older sibling will ask the same question. Experts point out that the reason children ask “why? Experts say that the reason children ask “Why?” is not necessarily because they want an answer, but because they want to gain some kind of advantage and complain. It is important to teach children to express their real needs and to explain to them that if they can achieve a certain ability first, then they will be able to do that thing. According to Wong Pak Ka’s article in
＜＜To a mom who’s been driven crazy by her two babies, “Fairness is treating children the same regardless of their age. Equality is to take into account the differences of the children and provide different kinds of assistance according to the different needs of each child”.
Lastly, I think parents should try their best to get time alone with their children, so that they can have time to talk to their parents and deepen their understanding and care for each other.
(References: Wang Yizhong Psychologist https://www.mababy.com/knowledge-detail?id=4960 Don’t underestimate the unconscious “favoritism” behavior of parents! 6 Ways to Treat Children Fairly)
Upper Lower 2B
Parent, Mr. Leung Siu Yiu (梁婥瑤)
June 21, 2024
Hello, I am Bonnie, the parent of Mr. Lau Pak Lung of Upper Secondary 4A, and I would like to share with you my experience of “Parent-Child Activities”.
As a pair of working parents, our parent-child time is very precious. “We may not be able to do the best in terms of quantity, but we still want to maintain the quality.
We always respect our children’s choices and will always go with them when they tell us where they want to go or what they want to do. For example, there was a TV news report about a large-scale supermarket in China, and the two brothers were curious about the fact that it was a bit different from the supermarkets that they shopped in everyday. Of course, we adults have been to this supermarket before, but I never imagined that they would be interested in it as well.
They even checked out the KOL videos on the internet and told me what their classmates told them about what they can buy in this supermarket. Finally, they arranged a trip to the supermarket with their brothers during Easter vacation. Before that, they did a little bit of data collection, checking out which transportation route is the fastest, tips on how to go to the supermarket, must-buy products, etc. For us, no matter what we do, it’s always a good idea to do it.
For us, no matter what we do or where we go, it’s a parent-child activity. Our family has benefited from the fact that they are more aware of the current affairs, and the two brothers have a way of negotiating not to buy too much to avoid wastage, etc. We are all aware of this in our daily life. In our daily life, we are doing quality parent-child activities.
Let’s think about it, our parents work hard to make a living and spend less time with us, but don’t we love our parents? I am still remembering the time when my two brothers said, “I found it,” in the supermarket! Mom’s favorite juice is really there!” My heart melted when I realized that they did the data collection for me.
Sheung Ko 4A
Lau Pak Lung Parents
June 7, 2024
Hello, I am Hebe Choi, parent of Lower 2 Liang Hao Zhen, and I am very happy to be here to share parent-child recipes with you, and this time I would like to recommend a tea time snack: Purple Potato Glutinous Rice Rolls, which is smoky like sticky rice cake, and is sandwiched with layers of purple potatoes, which the children like very much. Warm tips: Glutinous rice is difficult to digest, so avoid eating too much at one time. 👍🏻. You can ask your kids to help you spread the purple potatoes on this tea time snack, roll it up and cut it into pieces.
Ingredients
One small purple potato
120g glutinous rice flour
Cornstarch 30g
Coconut milk 100ml
Water 100ml
Sugar 40g
Oil 40g
Shredded Coconut
Method
1.Boil the purple potato and press it into paste.
2. Stir water and coconut milk together, then stir in glutinous rice flour, sugar and corn starch.
3.Stir all the ingredients listed above (pour the liquid into a vessel), then add the oil and stir together until no grain.
4. Steam the batter in a pot of boiling water for about 20 minutes, then loosen the batter and roll it into a circle.
5. Prepare a medium-sized airtight bag, put the dough into it and press it with a dough stick to form a long shape, you don’t need to seal it completely.
Cut the bag open and take out the dough, then spread with purple potato paste and roll it up.
6. Sprinkle with shredded coconut, dip a knife in water and cut into pieces.
Lower 2
Mr. Liang Hao Zheng
May 17, 2024
Fruit Cotton Candy Toast
Ingredients (for two persons)
-Strawberries 2-3 pieces
-Half a banana
-Or you can prepare your child’s favorite fruit
-2 slices of bread
-Chocolate sauce or jam, if desired
-Cotton candy
Preparation
1. Invite your child to help you wash the fruit and cut it into slices. (Warm instructions: use a child-safe plastic knife)
2. Spread the appropriate amount of chocolate sauce or jam on the sliced bread.
3. Spread appropriate amount of fruit and marshmallows on the sliced bread.
4. Bake in a preheated 180 degree oven for 5-10 minutes.
This Fruit Cotton Candy Toast is very suitable for parents and children to make and enjoy together, and can be used for breakfast or afternoon tea. Children can participate in the process of cutting, spreading and spreading fruits to increase the fun of parent-child interaction. I hope you will enjoy this simple yet tasty snack.
Lower Class 1
Mr. Mok Han Lam Parent
June 14, 2024
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